The idea of self-love sounds like a cliché, as does that saying:  If you don’t love yourself, how can you expect others to love you? People love to advise each other to focus on loving themselves. It seems to be something vaguely prescribed when things feel hard. But what does it actually mean? What does it look like? Some interpret this to mean  indulgent bubble baths, movie nights and walks in nature. For others, it might look like enforcing boundaries or leaving damaging